Moving forward from unplanned childlessness


This wasn't how life was supposed to turn out...

I will listen, empathise and understand that a life without children is not what you planned. 

Maybe you are feeling right now that life is pointless and empty and you don't know how to move forward without the children you longed for. 

I know, from my own experience, that it feels like your dreams and plans have come to nothing and how difficult it is to acknowledge this and work out what to do next. 

At Apricot Lane Coaching, I will work with you to create meaning and fulfilment in a life that hasn't turned out as you hoped and expected.


You are not alone...

Around 1 in 5 women in their 40s in the UK don't have children, some through choice but many (including me) who wanted and expected to have children but didn't. Yet, unplanned childlessness is a circumstance largely unrecognised and unsupported in our society.

"I looked around and it seemed like everyone apart from me was a mum, part of a special club that I didn't belong to. I have never felt so lonely and excluded."

But since I recognised my loss and shared my thoughts and feelings, I've realised that there are others out there going through the same experience. I belong to a group I never wanted to be a part of, but the relief of realising I wasn't alone in my childlessness was comforting. 

Now, through coaching, I support individuals and couples to find new ways through the loneliness and isolation of childlessness, to create a happy life without children.


Your feelings are real...

For years I buried my feelings about my childlessness, attributing them to other things that were happening in my life. I knew I was sad, but I didn't dare to think any deeper; I couldn't even be honest with myself!

When I finally let go, I needed professional support to face up to my feelings of failure, shame and grief. Working through these feelings was tough, but what a relief emerge  on the other side of my loss. 

Let me be the person who validates your feelings and gives you time and space to recognise and process your emotions. I will support you to grieve for your unborn children and find ways to move on.